Meeting in person is usually the preferred method for those in the counseling profession. There is something about being in close proximity with another human being that even the best technology cannot replicate.

Rapport is the key element to building trust within the counselor/client dyad, and in-person sessions provide the help of all six senses and all 3 dimensions. The helper relationship is about synergy, collaboration and safety. It creates a non-judgmental space to process and restore, to gain new insights, and to grow.

You can expect to first have a sacred space to share. Good listening and empathy, attention to the details of your story and experience. Affair recovery begins after the known facts of the event have been collected and discussed.

Questions may be asked about any pre-existing conditions that may be relevant to the infidelity. Past trauma, family history and mental health questions are a standard part of the counseling process.

Limerance and sexual addiction (compulsive sexual behavior) usually are explained as well. Initial sessions have a lot of back-and-forth Q&A between the client and the counselor, and psycho-education around counseling, trauma and affair recovery.

The client is always welcome to ask questions about how the therapy process works, how infidelity recovery ebbs and flows, what challenges can be expected, etc. Clients are always encouraged to read professional infidelity recovery blogs, articles, and listen to podcasts and YouTube videos.

Treatment plans are developed but always remain fluid as new information and developments occur in the process of infidelity recovery counseling. If the couple is attempting to repair the marriage after an affair, then we take the three leg stool approach where the three treatment plans work together between the hurt spouse and his/her betrayal trauma, the unfaithful spouse and repairing the marriage itself.